This is a longshot. I am writing this post in the hope that some stranger on the internet will find it and know who this woman is who wrote a blogspot blog called The End of Strife. She wrote the blog for nine days in October 2005 and then stopped. She has written nothing since October 18, 2005. I am hoping that either someone knows her and will write to me to tell me she is okay or that someone will write to me and tell me that they know who she is and they are wondering where she is too.

If you look at the blog, you will see that her writing is well done,
carefully thought out, and even passionate in her attention to what she
was writing about. She wrote a considerable amount in nine days and
then …. nothing. The writing appears unfinished. It just seemed that
she intended to continue with it. She lives or lived in Ontario,
Canada. She described herself as an editor, a professional writer, a
researcher, an artist, the divorced mother of three children. She is in
her mid-forties.

She has been going through a bitter separation and divorce for the
last four years. There are links on her blog to organizations that
provide counseling to victims of domestic violence.

In the arts her interest was fine arts and portraits. How many women
would fit all these criteria? She referred to herself as "M" to
maintain her anonymity. Is that the first letter of her name? She has
two sons and one daughter. She refers to her sons as J and T. She
refers to her daughter as D. In 2003 her daughter was in high school.
Her daughter was becoming alienated from her. She referred to her
husband as S. I wonder if she saw any irony in their letters being S
and M? Probably just a coincidence.

I have mentioned this blogger once before when I first wondered why
she had stopped writing. Since then I contacted the police in Toronto
and Ottawa and also one of the organizations that provides counseling
to women who are in situations where they are being abused. One
policeman has responded to me and has tried to find out who she is
through their tech unit but due to confidentiality laws and no evidence
of a crime having occurred other than her not writing her blog, he
can’t find out who she is and verify whether she is alive or not. I
have been concerned that her ex-husband may have murdered her. That is
dramatic and I hope that I am worried for nothing. I would like it if I
discovered that it is just me being silly and worried for nothing.

The organization that counsels women did not know who she is. They
said that there have been no murders reported in Toronto that match the
description of who she is. There weren’t any in Ottawa either according
to the policeman. He has been very kind to look into this as much as he
has for me. I was expecting not to be taken seriously at all. I hadn’t
heard from the Toronto police.

I did email her on October 19 when I was just writing to say hello
and then again on December 22 to inquire as to her wellbing and express
my concern. I never received a response. I have also tried to contact
blogger by phone to see if they could get a message to her but there
was no way to talk to any live person at blogger.

I know that people from Ontario do visit my blog. I know that if
something happened to her, it might be something normal that just
happens in life that either incapacitated her or caused her to be too
busy to write. An accident? An illness? Some emergency in her family?

What alarms me is that the circumstances that she was describing are
so often the kind of circumstances that end up with someone being
killed because a husband can’t tolerate his ex-wife trying to keep
custody of her children. Some people just can’t stand it if the person
who leaves them just wants to have a good life and stay in a
relationship with their children. I am worried about this complete
stranger. I am wondering if she had many friends and if she would be
missed if she suddenly disappeared? I am wondering if an ex-husband
might have given some reason why she wasn’t around. I am wondering if
there is just some reasonable explanation for her sudden quitting of
her blog? Did she break her arm? Was she in a car accident and is
recuperating in a hospital?

Anyway, this is a longshot. A very longshot. And probably very silly. But since when am I afraid of being seen as silly? 🙂

Snicks