Not having addressed the emotions surrounding Mother’s day and estrangement for years here on this blog, I found myself thinking about the subject and about what to say. Or whether to write a post at all or just let the day go by post-free as I’d been doing.
I am sitting myself down here to think while I type to see what occurs to me on this day, one of the more painful days to have to get through for mothers who have been estranged. A day which also can be painful for many who are estranged from a mother with whom they had had a loving affectionate relationship prior to estrangement. What to say?
Weblogs
A blog written by a grandmother denied access to her grandchildren
A mother and grandmother who posts on her own blog about family estrangement and the loss of relationships with her son and grandchildren wrote to me this week. She sent me a link to her blog for inclusion here. I took a look and like her writing so much that I am happy to provide…
Slate staff writer Katy Waldman’s article on Narcissism: Link
Are you a Narcissist? by Slate staff writer Katy Waldman, August 2014 If you’re new to being estranged and to online discussions of the condition, you might not have experienced the word Narcissistic (with a capital N in the context of Narcissistic Personality Disorder) occurring frequently in discussions of family estrangement. If you are a…
Baggage, baggage, and more baggage
I've been thinking a lot lately about the baggage that people carry and how people interpret who and what other people are. The series of posts I wrote about Being Wrong were motivated by my desire to get through to those who believe they are right no matter what, no matter if there is evidence…
Family estrangement in photographs
I am reading estrangement into the action taken on old photographs. They say a photograph is worth 1,000 words. The photo above is a carte de visite (cdv) from the early 1870's. The mother's face was scratched out in the negative prior to the image being printed. It would have been scratched out by the…
Next Post will be by Guest Poster Topiarystepmom!
The next Post will be by my first invited Guest Poster, Topiarystepmom! Topiarystepmom is the founder of the Parents Who Walk Away (PWWA) discussion group on the DailyStrength.org site. She founded PWWA in October 2011 and the group now has 232 members. She has had four decades of serial estrangement experience. She is the first…
Note to estranged daughter
As you know, I can see the many many visits that you've been making to my blog. I also can see from the source of some links that bring you and others to my blog that you've written a post which has a title that references my taking three years to write something and the…
Being Wrong: Part Six
I woke up this morning and realized that I was not finished yet in talking about Being Wrong. There is another important question that we can ask ourselves as we examine our ability to be wrong and how our errors impact ourselves and others. Going back to the description of what occurred between Carol and…
Being Wrong: Part 5
That sure was a long seven days since I last posted an entry on this topic of being wrong! That delay occurred despite my best intentions to do what I said that I was going to do. It has been difficult for me to finish this piece. My goal is to make a point but…
Being Wrong, Part 4: How is it that sometimes we choose the wrong answer?
Funny how things change. In that first post on Being Wrong that I wrote in May 2011, I talked about a couple that I knew, "Bob" and "Janice" and how I had gone from initially disliking them a lot to becoming good friends with them. I was using that transformation as an example of how…