It has been alleged by Robin that I visit her website every day. <\/p>\n
No. I visit it on occasion. Sometimes months go by without my visiting it. Robin is a Drama Queen. She calls this "stalking". Puhleeze!!!<\/p>\n
She has suggested that the fact that I talk about murders of families might mean that I would hurt her. <\/p>\n
No. That is absurd. I talk about murders of families for two reasons. One is that I am always fascinated by the contrast between the private person and the public person. Between how some people seem so very normal and then they go and do something so contrary to everyone’s expectations of them. <\/p>\n
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My interest in these persons has nothing whatever to do with Robin However, speaking of murder, Robin stated that her father warned her Robin called her father a sociopath and a narcissist. I never As far as having Narcissistic Personality Disorder. they always say When I left my ex, I learned how much I didn’t know. I had been I made a mistake in allowing Robin to live in the house after I She has never experienced a divorce and I hope she never will. Since I knew my ex adored cars. I was never that into cars but due to a When someone acts like a jerk, as I had, it might make sense to let (Note added Nov. 5: When I used the words, "Bite me!" above and So anyway, some people reconcile when they realize that what their Jennifer Aniston recently reconciled with her mother after a 9 year
\nother than that she has estranged herself from me and that was quite
\ncontrary to anything I had ever expected from her. But other than that,
\nno, it has nothing to do with my own family. The other reason is that I
\nam fascinated with mysteries that involve crimes. This also has nothing
\nwhatever to do with Robin. Not everything is about her. I, along with a
\nzillion other people, enjoy trying to figure out why or who did this or
\nthat evil deed. Here is the link for my favorite blog about missing
\npersons and crimes. It is called The Dark Side. (Note: The Dark Side no longer exists but the blogger who had had the Dark Side has a new blog on crime: crimeblog.us.<\/a>) <\/a>\n<\/p>\n
\nnot to put Robert as a beneficiary on an insurance policy as he might
\nmurder her to get the money. This is interesting because when I was
\nleaving her father, he wanted me to get a life insurance policy and
\nname him as beneficiary! Since I hadn’t fallen off a turnip truck that
\nday, I did not take out the insurance policy and did see the
\nimplications behind why he might want me to get one. Long before Robert
\nwas even in the picture, my ex had thought of that idea all on his own.
\nInteresting that he would tell Robin to watch out for that.<\/p>\n
\nconsidered him a sociopath as he does have feelings. He just doesn’t
\nexpress them or maybe even feel them right away. He might talk about a
\nfeeling months after the event that caused it. Or that is how it
\nseemed. I never saw him do things that seemed like a sociopath other
\nthan ask me to buy an insurance policy when I was leaving him. That
\nMIGHT be sociopathic. He did tell me that he was having fantasies of
\nmurdering me but then we were divorcing and people can get some pretty
\nwild ideas in the middle of a divorce. I don’t think it makes him
\nsociopathic. Not that I usually defend him.<\/p>\n
\nthat a professional has to diagnose it. But some people just seem to
\nfit all the criteria. I have wondered about that in my ex but didn’t
\nreally think it was so. Image is important to him and it sounds as
\nthough it is important to his second wife. But whether it rises to the
\nlevel of Narcissistic Personality Disorder for my ex, I don’t know. I
\nhave read a number of good books on NPD because we have some friends
\nwho seem to have all the criteria for NPD and they are much more
\nnarcissistic than my ex seemed. <\/p>\n
\nmarried to him for 18 years but then felt as though I didn’t know him
\nat all.<\/p>\n
\nleft. She witnessed his grief and pain over the separation and divorce.
\nShe never witnessed mine. I never allowed her to see me cry. She has no
\nway of knowing how much I cried or how much pain I was in. She has no
\nway of knowing that I am vulnerable and that I hurt. She has never seen
\nme show much weakness. This was a mistake on my part, to let her stay
\nthere. I think she might have felt that I was abandoning her,
\nespecially when my tiny apartment didn’t have room for her. I was
\nfreaked out at the time that I would not be able to support myself and
\ntook the smallest cheapest apartment I could find and it didn’t have a
\nseparate room for her. When she visited there and didn’t see another
\nroom, I cringed and felt guilty that I might have hurt her. It was
\nNEVER my intention and my only reason for taking that apartment was my
\nfear of not being able to make the payments on a better one. I knew
\nthat I would get no money from Tony.<\/p>\n
\nshe has a strong bond with Robert, they may always be together.
\nHowever, if she had experienced what it is like to leave or be left,
\nand not just witnessed it as a daughter, she might have more empathy
\nfor why people talk and act the way that they do when they divorce. Why
\nthey do stupid things. I did plenty of stupid things, including being a
\njerk about the Mercedes that we drove to her wedding 6 years later.
\nYes, I was a jerk about the Mercedes. <\/p>\n
\nstory that is too long and uninteresting my second husband and I ended
\nup with this Mercedes and I wanted to shove that Mercedes right up
\nTony’s nose because he had been such a pain in the butt by not talking
\nto me and not trying to be friends. So I was a jerk. So bite me! I am
\nnot the first woman to act like a jerk after a divorce and I won’t be
\nthe last. My ex acted like a jerk and I acted like a jerk. We are human
\nand sometimes we’re stupid. If someone could walk in my shoes at that
\ntime, they might have driven the Mercedes right across my ex’s lawn! It
\nwasn’t the worst thing I’ve done and it is a pretty minor thing. I’m
\nsure it was irritating. I recall that it was my sister-in-law that I
\ndragged outside to show off the Mercedes. Yes, a jerky thing to do!
\nSome would call this human but then others would call it mental
\nillness. I wonder if they institutionalize many people for being jerks
\ntowards their ex-spouses?<\/p>\n
\nthem know, kindly, that they are acting like a jerk. It doesn’t take
\nmuch to clue me in. I know when I’ve been a jerk and it is embarrassing
\nto think back on. I can’t imagine that Robin has been so perfect in her
\nlife that she has never done a jerky thing. In fact she has told me
\nabout some pretty jerky things that she has done that were downright
\nalarming!<\/p>\n
\nwhen I said in another post that "Shit happens." my daughter reacted by
\nstating that she wouldn’t accept an apology that had those words in it.
\nWell, that’s fine. In the unlikely event that I ever even speak to her
\nagain, I will remember that. But in the context of what I was saying
\nabove in this post and in the other post, I was not making an apology.
\nI was describing what happened and why. I was admitting that of course
\nI make mistakes and act like a jerk as we all do. My daughter has taken
\nthis information and used it to attack me further rather than accepting
\nmy admitting my human foibles.)<\/em><\/p>\n
\nestranged person has done is something that they can eventually
\nunderstand and empathize with. For some people it’s when they have kids
\nthat they realize that their parents aren’t so bad. For others it is
\nwhen they get a divorce and things get crazy and then they realize that
\ntheir mother or father had a reason to behave as they had. They learn
\nempathy. They forgive and put things in a proper scale. <\/p>\n
\nestrangement. Jennifer was divorcing Brad Pitt and learned in the
\nprocess that maybe her mother wasn’t such a bad person. <\/p>\n