Hello Out There On The Internet,<\/p>\n
Somewhere out there you exist. I don’t know who you are. I only know that you emailed my ex-daughter to let her know about Estrangements.com. You, of course, know who you are.<\/p>\n
I have wondered about your motivations and whether I know you and you know me. Or maybe you are talented at figuring out who people are on the internet. I have wondered if you had good intentions or malevolent ones. You must have thought that you were doing the right thing. I believe you did this very recently.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
There were less than a handful of people that I ever gave sufficient
\ninformation to that would have enabled them to email my ex-daughter.
\nBut some people do have good detective skills so it might not have been
\nanyone of those few people. I have asked two and they have assured me
\nthat they didn’t do this and that they don’t think that anyone who was
\nmy friend would have done this.<\/p>\n
I have mixed feelings about what you’ve done. Certainly, if I know
\nyou, I wouldn’t consider you to be a trustworthy friend. So if I found
\nout who you are, I would never trust you again. I hope you aren’t
\nsomeone whom I know.<\/p>\n
Among those mixed feelings happiness doesn’t exist. I don’t feel
\nhappy about it. I do feel some relief in that this has happened. I knew
\nthere was this risk, that my ex-daughter would find out about the
\nwebsite but I didn’t know when. I feel some relief that I now know
\nexactly how she has felt about me for a long time. Those feelings
\nexplain a lot. If we had reconciled before she found out, I would have
\nhad to tell her or would have had to change the site radically. But
\nmost likely I would have had to be honest and tell her. If she had
\nfound out later I would have expected her to be much more upset than
\nfinding out while we are estranged. <\/p>\n
Last week my ex-daughter had a major blow-up with her stepmother and
\nthen her father and put a description of what had happened on her
\nwebsite. She decided to estrange them both. Then she went to or was
\ntold about Estrangements.com and found my blog about estrangements and
\nmy reaction to her new estrangements. You had told her about the
\nwebsite either prior to her blowup with her stepmother or shortly
\nafter. She went to a discussion board that I provide links to on
\nEstrangements.com. I had belonged to that group almost since its
\ninception. She searched through the posts back through 2004 and found
\nall of my posts. Then she posted on the board, first about her
\nstepmother and father, and then about me. <\/p>\n
One of the members there who remembered me sent me an email to let
\nme know what was happening. Initially I thought that her posts about me
\non the board were an opportunity to communicate with her. I felt
\nexcited and responded to all of her posts that were about me. In fact I
\nthought that she must have been there in order to communicate with me
\nbecause why would anyone who is estranged post on a board on which the
\nperson from whom they are estranged is already a member? I told her
\nthat I loved her. I thought that I could clear up old
\nmisinterpretations and miscommunications. I failed at accomplishing
\nthis.<\/p>\n
She did not respond to my posts there as of a few days ago. Others
\nthere who hadn’t seen me before, thought that I had tracked my
\nex-daughter down and had joined the board because she was on there.
\nThey were horrified, assuming that I had come in for the first time to
\npost. <\/p>\n
I did receive another email from my ex-daughter on October 31 in
\nwhich she said in exactly these words (including typo): "I don’t want
\nyour "love". I certaintly don’t love you (my version) or care about you
\nin any way. In another paragraph she said, " There is nothing that I
\nmiss about you, or want to know about you, or have found endearing
\nabout you. There is nothing I want to share with you …" She is in
\nactuality my Ex-Daughter. In other emails to me and about me, she has
\ntold me that I am essentially worthless as far as she is concerned. She
\nhas said that she never will end our estrangement. This seems to me to
\nbe a kind of divorce from her that began in 1995. I have an ex-husband
\nand an ex-daughter. I think I can assume that she is very happy to be
\nmy ex-daughter, considerably happier than if she considered herself to
\nbe my daughter.<\/p>\n
This was good for me to learn although it is hard to find words to
\nthank you, oh Internet Anonymous Somebody. Intellectually I should feel
\nthankful for knowing the absolute truth. I have mixed emotions.<\/p>\n
I also read what she then wrote on her website about me. The bottom
\nline was a reinforcement of what she said that I quoted above. She
\ncontradicted other things that she has said in the past. An example is
\nthat in the past she accused me of not wanting to spend time with her.
\nMy assumption from that accusation is that she wanted me to spend more
\ntime with her. I have told her that her idea that I didn’t want to
\nspend time with her wasn’t true. In 1995 when she accused me of that, I
\nasked to spend time with her, an invitation that was rejected then and
\nlater. On her website, she described exactly how she did not want to
\nspend time with me, does not want to spend time with me, had not liked
\nspending time with me, and will not ever want to spend time with me.
\nOh, Projection, I think I have found your Poster Woman! Anyway, the
\n"how my mother never wants to spend time with me" is a prime example of
\nEx-Daughter Logic.<\/p>\n
While I did make a number of the posts about the events of this past
\nweek private due to their not contributing much to the content of my
\nblog and involving others who don’t need to be involved, I am writing
\nthis post to you in case you don’t know what happened. I am really
\ncurious what you were hoping to accomplish. Maybe your intentions were
\ngood?<\/p>\n
Over the course of my life I have known things about other people
\nthat they didn’t know about other people in their life. I chose not to
\nlet anyone in on the secrets, choosing to let life take its course and
\nlet the chips fall where they may. People find out what they need to
\nknow eventually on their own. That’s been my choice and I think it’s a
\ngood one. I am going to continue to do that. Other people make other
\nchoices, as you have. Last night on The Apprentice, Donald Trump said
\nabout how some people are homosexuals, "That is why there are menus. We
\nall make different choices." That quote might not be word for word but
\nit is close enough. So you made your choice and I will continue to make
\nmine. <\/p>\n
I wonder who you are.<\/p>\n
Oh, and about my ex-daughter’s estrangement from her father and
\nstepmother. It appears that she is going to reconcile with her father
\nand will remain estranged from her stepmother.<\/p>\n
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