This coming Thursday is Thanksgiving Day. This will be the first Thanksgiving since 1995 that I can say that I am thankful for the estrangements in my life as well as for so many other things of a more traditional nature like health, friends, a loving husband and a roof over my head. <\/p>\n
Reading the list below of the Princess and the Pea’s Fifteen Rules of Conduct makes me realize once again how foolish I have been to be missing the Princess for all of these years when I might have felt thankfulness instead. Lately I have been angry at myself for missing the Princess after learning that she does not love me or care about me and hasn’t for many years. <\/p>\n <\/p>\n I had thought there might be another explanation for our Trying to have a relationship with an unloving uncaring abusive relative is an exercise in self abuse. <\/p>\n If you have ever had an argument with a Prince or Princess, then you Here are the Rules as demonstrated to me by my very own Princess. For the sake of accuracy, please be aware that my Princess never RULE #1:<\/strong> If you bring up events that occurred years ago to RULE #2:<\/strong> If you respond to the Prince(ss)’s interpretation of RULE #3:<\/strong> If you state that a Prince(ss)’s statement is untrue RULE #4:<\/strong> While you have never said or even thought that RULE #5:<\/strong> The Prince(ss) gets to say that you are ignorant RULE #6:<\/strong> The Prince(ss)’s definition of stalking includes RULE #7:<\/strong> Your private posts with which the Prince(ss) RULE #8:<\/strong> If you express anger, hurt, dismay, disappointment, RULE #9:<\/strong> The Prince(ss) may describe your significant other RULE #10:<\/strong> Discussing anything with the Prince(ss) is RULE #11:<\/strong> The Prince(ss) gets to call you unloving and RULE #12:<\/strong> In an argument, the Prince(ss) gets to say, "I RULE #13:<\/strong> The fact that you have tried to have a relationship RULE #14:<\/strong> When you suggest that a visit to a therapist’s RULE #15:<\/strong> The Prince(ss)s opinion of mental health \nThursday, November 24, is Thanksgiving. I will give thanks.<\/p>\n Snicks<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" OR Why We Can Be Thankful For An Estrangement This coming Thursday is Thanksgiving Day. This will be the first Thanksgiving since 1995 that I can say that I am thankful for the estrangements in my life as well as for so many other things of a more traditional nature like health, friends, a loving…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[256,5,69],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-297","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-creative-expression","category-for-parents","category-weblogs"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/estrangements.com\/theblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/297","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/estrangements.com\/theblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/estrangements.com\/theblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/estrangements.com\/theblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/estrangements.com\/theblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=297"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/estrangements.com\/theblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/297\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/estrangements.com\/theblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=297"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/estrangements.com\/theblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=297"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/estrangements.com\/theblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=297"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nestrangement. I was wrong and have been wrong since 1995. I was in
\ndenial. It is a simple explanation for our estrangement. At some time
\nprior to 1995 she stopped loving me. I know that I am the same person
\nthat I have always been. Something changed and it wasn’t me. I can’t
\nimagine that she never loved me but I suppose that it’s possible. I
\ndon’t know.<\/p>\n
\nknow that special rules of conduct apply that do not apply when you are
\nhaving discussions with other adults in your life. I use the spelling
\n"Prince(ss)" to cover both genders, Your Prince(ss)’s expectations of
\nyou may have confused you. If you fail to obey their Rules, then the
\nPrince(ss) gets to scream, "OFF WITH YOUR HEAD!" If cutting off your
\nhead is not an option, then they just stop talking to you.<\/p>\n
\nYour Prince(ss)’s Rules may vary in some of the details but will have
\ncertain similarities.<\/p>\n
\nused the term "pond scum" in reference to me to my knowledge although
\nshe has used other words of a contemptuous and scornful nature. I use
\nthe words "pond scum" to cover a range of other terms that have roughly
\nthe same level of contempt and scorn in their meaning.<\/p>\nTHE FIFTEEN PRINCE(SS) AND THE PEA RULES OF CONDUCT<\/h3>\n
\nillustrate a point during an argument, you are pond scum for having the
\ntemerity to bring up old history. If the Prince(ss) brings up events
\nthat occurred years ago to illustrate a point, it is justified. Your
\nbehavior not justified. The Prince(ss)’s behavior is. It’s just the way
\nit is.<\/p>\n
\nan event that occurred years ago with facts that can lead to a
\ndifferent interpretation by a reasonable person, you are pond scum and
\nthe Prince(ss) can ignore those inconvenient facts.<\/p>\n
\nand provide evidence to back up your statement, then that is the same
\nas calling the Prince(ss) a liar and as all Prince(ss)es know, it is
\nnot possible for a Prince(ss) to be inaccurate as they are indeed
\nRoyalty and Royalty is PERFECT. Anyone who would state otherwise is
\noffensive pond scum.<\/p>\n
\neverything that the Prince(ss) wanted to do was stupid, the Prince(ss)
\ncan accuse you of thinking that everything that the Prince(ss) wanted
\nto do was stupid. When you protest and say that you have always given
\nsupport for what the Prince(ss) wanted to do, the Prince(ss) can say,
\n"And you bring that up in every argument." The fact that you have said
\nthat only that one time and that the Prince(ss)’s reaction to your
\nstatement doesn’t even make sense is irrelevant according to the
\nPrince(ss)’s Rules. You are argumentative and unsupportive pond scum
\nwho has a heck of a nerve bringing up your past supportiveness.<\/p>\n
\npond scum because you don’t know them and the facts of their life
\nbetter at this point in time even though you haven’t been able to talk
\nor spend time with them for many years because the Prince(ss) won’t
\ntalk to you or spend time with you.<\/p>\n
\nyour viewing the Prince(ss)’s website on the internet. The Prince(ss)’s
\ndefinition of stalking does not include the searching out by the
\nPrince(ss) of your private posts in a members-only discussion board on
\nthe internet nor the Prince(ss)’s viewing of your website. Your viewing
\nof their public website makes you stalking pond scum. Their searching
\nout of your private posts is … reasonable behavior?<\/p>\n
\ndisagrees make you pond scum. Not only does the Prince(ss) disagree,
\nthe Prince(ss) may share selected posts with other people mentioned in
\nthe posts. Posts of a positive nature to anyone are not mentioned. You,
\nof course, are not given an opportunity to discuss these posts with any
\nof them. According to the Prince(ss)’s Rules of Conduct, this is fair.<\/p>\n
\npain or any other feeling over your estrangement from the Prince(ss),
\nthen the Prince(ss) gets to use your expression of human emotion as a
\nfurther springboard for attacking you and calling you names.<\/p>\n
\n(husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend) to you as strange and weird. You
\nmust not respond in any way unless you agree with the Prince(ss). But
\nif you request that the Prince(ss)’s significant other, who is the cook
\nand prides themself on their cooking, might make meals in the future
\nthat were lower in saturated fat as you have been diagnosed with high
\ncholesterol, then the Prince(ss) may charge you with insulting their
\nsignificant other and accuse you of being ungrateful and insulting pond
\nscum. Please read the first two sentences in this paragraph again. <\/p>\n
\nforbidden. That means that only the Prince(ss)’s interpretation of all
\nevents counts. There is no other view or viewpoint or memory or
\npossible interpretation. Anyone who disputes this is pond scum and
\neligible to join the list of those the Prince(ss) doesn’t talk to.<\/p>\n
\nuninterested in spending time with the Prince(ss) while also stating
\nthat he or she doesn’t love you, doesn’t like you, doesn’t care about
\nyou, doesn’t want to spend time with you, and hasn’t wanted to spend
\ntime with you for many years. According to the Rules, you must not
\nbecome aware of or point out the contradictions in any of the
\nPrince(ss)’s statements.<\/p>\n
\nnever want to talk to you again," and to call you a horrid person,
\nworthless, unworthy of energy, time and attention regardless of the
\nmany years of time, energy, attention, love, and enjoyment that you
\nhave put into a relationship with the Prince(ss) or your expressed
\ndesire to have a relationship. If you expected a reciprocal
\nrelationship with the Prince(ss) where there is some effort on both
\nsides to spend time with each other and to remember each other on
\nholidays and other special days, then you are called demanding,
\nmercenary, and unreasonable. As far as the Prince(ss) is concerned, you
\nare now as important as pond scum.<\/p>\n
\nwith the Prince(ss) and that you have expressed pain at your failure is
\nevidence of something negative according to the Prince(ss) who shows
\nevidence of experiencing pleasure at knowing about your pain. In fact
\nthe Prince(ss) calls you crazy pond scum. <\/p>\n
\noffice by the both of you might be helpful to figure out where their
\nanger is coming from, then the Prince(ss) becomes insulted by the idea
\nthat you have implied that there is something wrong with them. The
\nPrince(ss) tells you to see a therapist by yourself because you are
\ncrazy pond scum.<\/p>\n
\nprofessionals is that they generally are pond scum and to be avoided
\nunless desperate. The Prince(ss) considers themself to be a
\ndiagnostician capable of diagnosing their own mental health issues as
\nwell as those of everyone they know and people they don’t know and have
\nnever met. They are not limited in their diagnostic powers by never
\nhaving met most of the people whom they diagnose or by a lack of
\nunderstanding of mental health issues in general. Their scorn for
\nanyone other than themselves who has had a mental health issue is of
\nRoyal dimensions.<\/p>\n