{"id":281,"date":"2005-12-22T15:13:00","date_gmt":"2005-12-22T15:13:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/estrangements.com\/theblog\/2005\/12\/22\/a_discussion_gr\/"},"modified":"2005-12-22T15:13:00","modified_gmt":"2005-12-22T15:13:00","slug":"a_discussion_gr","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/estrangements.com\/theblog\/2005\/12\/22\/a_discussion_gr\/","title":{"rendered":"

A discussion group on PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome)<\/h2>"},"content":{"rendered":"

Discussion of Parental Alienation Syndrome<\/a><\/p>\n

If you are a parent who is estranged from your child, whether or not you are divorced from their other parent, many of the stories described in this discussion group will sound familiar.<\/p>\n

Years ago when I first read about PAS, I sent a copy of a book on PAS to both my ex and my daughter. I doubt that either of them read it. My daughter probably threw the package away without even looking inside. <\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

I don’t think it is possible to give those who might be affected by
\nPAS information about it and expect them to recognize that PAS is the
\ncause of how they feel and why they are acting as they are. It seems to
\nbe part of the package that those who might suffer from PAS are the
\nleast likely to be objective about it, certainly not objective enough
\nto recognize it in themselves. <\/p>\n

Is there anyone who can clearly say what PAS is? It isn’t a clearcut
\npsychiatric condition as so many other conditions are. I view it as a
\nsort of familial Stockholm Syndrome<\/a>
\nwhere children, whether minors or adults, forge alliances with those
\nwho they see most often and are geographically and physically closest
\nto, even if the physically closest parent is not the mentally
\nhealthiest parent. The reason that I believe that PAS exists is that
\nthere are too many instances of similar stories of unjustified
\nestrangements by the children of parents who have divorced and where
\nfeelings were particularly bitter by at least one of the parents.
\nSomething interesting is going on that fails to obey the laws of logic
\nand fairness.<\/p>\n

But then there are other instances of estrangements that sound so
\nmuch like these and the parents who were estranged by their children
\nwere never divorced and are happily married for many years. So PAS
\ncan’t be involved in those estrangements, can it? Or can it? Is there a
\ncondition of alienation that can occur generally when children become
\ninvolved in relationships with others who discourage their
\nrelationships with one or both parents? The "other" involved could be a
\nreligious group? Their other parent? A significant other? A political
\nparty? Anything that involves a high degree of closeness and
\ninvolvement with the person and that somehow campaigns against a closer
\nrelationship with a parent? Or it may not be a campaign against the
\nparent so much as a perception on the part of the person who does the
\nestranging that a relationship with their parent would threaten this
\nother new relationship that they are valuing highly. Regardless of
\nwhether there is a real threat or not? It has been said that
\n"perception is everything."<\/p>\n

People, both married longterm and divorced, have described to me
\nestrangements that are so much like the one that exists between myself
\nand my daughter. There must be some common denominator for a number of
\nthese parental rejections. Maybe there is a general condition that
\ndescribes a human reaction to certain life conditions where the person
\nalienates themselves from others whom they see as threatening, despite
\nthe reality of no plausible threat existing. A general Alienation
\nSyndrome that can occur between parents and children as well as between
\nany person and the society and\/or people they used to trust.<\/p>\n

Whether or not you are a parent who was divorced, if you are
\nestranged from your child, chances are that you will find similarities
\nto your own story in the stories at the link I included above.<\/p>\n

Wishing you Peaceful Holidays,
\nSnicks<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Discussion of Parental Alienation Syndrome If you are a parent who is estranged from your child, whether or not you are divorced from their other parent, many of the stories described in this discussion group will sound familiar. Years ago when I first read about PAS, I sent a copy of a book on PAS…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[69],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-281","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-weblogs"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/estrangements.com\/theblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/281","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/estrangements.com\/theblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/estrangements.com\/theblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/estrangements.com\/theblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/estrangements.com\/theblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=281"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/estrangements.com\/theblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/281\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/estrangements.com\/theblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=281"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/estrangements.com\/theblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=281"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/estrangements.com\/theblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=281"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}